It is common to link certain habits and attributes, to the breed of the mentally resilient.
On the other hand, mental strength can also be gauged by identifying the things mentally strong individuals DO NOT do.
Do Not Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves. You don’t see mentally strong people feeling sorry for their circumstances or dwelling on the way they’ve been mistreated. They have an inherent understanding of the fact that frequently life is not fair.
Do Not Shy Away from Change. Mentally strong people embrace change and they welcome challenge. Their biggest “fear,” if they have one, is not of the unknown, but of becoming complacent and outdated.
Do Not Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control. Mentally strong people don’t complain (much) about bad traffic, lost luggage or even the behaviour of other people. In a bad situation, they recognize that the one thing…
As you read the words sting ray I believe that the name Steve Irwin comes to mind. The horrible “gasps” echoed around the world when people heard of his injury and eventual passing.
I still feel sad when I think about Irwin being gone, for his wild love of nature inspired me to watch him on television. I didn’t love nature as passionately as Irwin did, but I did appreciate it more.
In the Grand Cayman there is a beautiful stretch of sand bar that houses a lot of sting rays called Sting Ray City. Of course our tour guides from MarineLand Tours, were well versed and full of knowledge about sting rays. They even mentioned the Steve Irwin tragedy that his death was not intentional, with the sting ray using its defense mechanism (and the only defense sting rays have) the tail barb.
MarineLand tours provides several excursions such as charters, private tours, and special occasions, as well as the tours to Sting Ray City. In 2013 MarineLand tours was bestowed Trip Advisor’s Certificate of Excellence Award. They certainly deserved it, and this is one tour I am highly recommending.
Recently my state of employment has given me a new status titled ” job hunter.” I have been introduced to the challenges and opportunities that are part of the job hunting foray.
As I eye each job or corporation seeking people to fill their empty spots, I find a diamond in the rough.
While searching through Fortune 500 companies that use Flexjobs.com to help fill their positions, I am often on the look out for employment possibilities for others.
Flexjobs.com specializes in telecommuting, remote/work at home jobs, but has plenty of location jobs to apply for as well.
Apple is today’s employer pick of the “job hunter” guild. Apple’s AppleCare College Program works with University of Houston to hire enrolled students to work for their organization. Students with excellent organizational skills, high critical thinking skills, and has a GPA of at least 2.7 should apply for an at home technical support position.
The position requires a quiet work space and high-speed Internet to learn more requirements click here.
Learn How Net Neutrality Will Affect You Personally. WordPress blogger Paul Sieminski, reports on how the Internet, as we know it will never be the same, if we let it. Read the article, and express your feelings on net neutrality. #netneutrality #brouhahaaccess
“Net Neutrality” is the simple but powerful principle that cable and broadband providers must treat all internet traffic equally. Whether you’re loading a blog post on WordPress.com, streaming House of Cards on Netflix, or browsing handcrafted tea cozies on Etsy, your internet provider can’t degrade your connection speed, block sites, or charge a toll based on the content that you’re viewing.
Net neutrality has defined the internet since its inception, and it’s hard to argue with the results: the internet is the most powerful engine of economic growth and free expression in history. Most importantly, the open internet is characterized by companies, products, and ideas that survive or fail depending on their own merit — not on whether they have preferred deals in place with a broadband service provider. Unfortunately, the principle of net neutrality, and the open internet that we know and love, is under attack.
In the wake of the domestic violence reports with Ray Rice, former NFL player for the Baltimore Ravens, DomesticViolence Month is just around the corner starting in October. It is sad to see that domestic violence still a common occurrence, and that many are so surprised by the violent act.
Janay Rice has released an apology for her part in the “cringe” worthy scene caught on the elevator surveillance video released by TMZ. In hindsight it cannot be easy for the abused to leave an abuser. Knowing this, I was still shocked she should defend her man so adamantly to the point of being upset with the media, NFL, and the horrified public who sympathized with her plight. I must admit that I became angry, and suddenly became unsympathetic. However, after thinking about it, and seeing some images of Janay Rice walking eyes down I realized I had no room to judge. Then there was the article published by Huffington Post titled, #WhyIStayed Stories Reveal Why Domestic Violence Survivors Can’t ‘Just leave’, which explains why the abused tend to stay or seemingly support their partner’s behavior.
For many, domestic violence is behavior hard to accept, and hearing an abused person downplaying it and attacking others for punishing the abuser is even more confusing. Domestic violence leaves emotional and psychological scars along with physical reminders of abuse. According to the National Network To End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), a 24 hour study in 2009 showed that domestic violence programs served around 65,000 daily along 23,000 phones calls answered by crisis hotlines daily. Imagine these are the incidents reported and acknowledged. NNEDV has a FAQ to help people understand what occurs in a relationship filled with domestic violence, and the stigma that still exists with it today.
Domestic violence touches everyone regardless of sex, class, education, or race. A 2001 study by the US Bureau of Justice Statistics showed, that while 85% were female victims at least 15% included gay and lesbians relationships and men who were abused by female partners. In many cases there are signs leading to an abusive relationship, but they can be so subtle a person may not realize it until it’s too late. The best way to avoid an abusive relationship is to be aware of the signs. Some examples from NNEDV are:
They insist on moving too quickly into a relationship.
They can be very charming and may seem too good to be true.
They insist that you stop participating in leisure activities or spending time with family and friends.
They are extremely jealous or controlling.
They do not take responsibility for their actions and blame others for everything that goes wrong.
They criticize their partner’s appearance and make frequent put-downs.
Their words and actions don’t match.
Domestic violence does not have to be a part of your life. If you or anyone you know is in a domestic violent relationship call for help. Give yourself a voice again.
Hotline advocates are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year to provide confidential crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands.
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I am finally at a point where I am comfortable to work on my first love; being creative. I loved the fact that creativity could make work less boring and more productive. I am back once again taking on the roll as novelist, blogger, and social media lover.
Another great icon has passed, RIP Larry Hagman. Larry Hagman played the infamous schemer of all schemers, J.R. Ewing. See how TNT will handle his loss with the second season première airing on TNT network January 28th.
His return to his homeland Iraq gives Abu cause to review his life past and future. Abu’s story tells heart-wrenching stories of the different people in his new place of residence in Iraq bordering on Kuwait.
Abu feels like a foreigner among his own people. It doesn’t help that he is new to the a city that is stuck in limbo.
With the Americans still using their roads to continue a war in the distance, yet so close. Abu’s days are disrupted unexpectedly by a young girl, whose penchant for all things American, borders on blasphemy in their Muslim world.
But as the story unfolds we wonder if people are right to be skeptical of Abu. Abu’s is a stranger with secrets and a mission. The question is whose side is he on?
It is 9/11 and my thoughts and prayers are with the friends and families who have been left without the ones they cherishes the most. Regardless who caused the tragedy the outcome remains the same. The tragedy was not prejudice in who it took only that it did. Remember their lives and celebrate it.
Our dead are never dead to us, until we have forgotten them. George Eliot
Weddings, marriage, and babies are the things that many people look forward to in life. Regardless if male or female eventually a good percentage of people go on to marry sometime in their life. Oh, the feeling of bliss, of upcoming nuptials. There is a symbolic gesture from the beginning with the gift of the engagement ring which eventually becomes the wedding ring. The ring worn by both people in the marriage tells the world, “I belong to someone and they to me”. Sigh.
Then comes my 19 year-old teen saying that when he marries he will NOT where a ring. Gasp! My mind was blown away, when he continued his diatribe to marriage by insisting he would not wear a ring, but his wife would. Oh the shock of it all was almost too much to bare. I couldn’t believe that the one child of mine whose sensitivity was so palpable at times would make such a statement. After I got over the initial shock I asked him why he didn’t want to wear his wedding ring. His statement was as simple as his announcement, why? He and his wife knew they were married and that was all that counted.
Well, I suppose his statement was true enough. Wedding ring or no wedding ring a couple was still married, right? Why did we even have wedding rings in the first place? Wedding rings have been in existence since Egyptian times. Whenever I meet someone my eyes usually falls first to their ring fingers. Are they married or are they single. Why? Because, encroaching on someone else’s person is not the thing to do. I believe that both parties should wear a wedding ring. The wedding ring symbolizes a couples love for each other. Of course, some people don’t feel that they need to announce to the world they are married and I suppose this should be okay too, right? To each his own?
Sigh, to ring or not to ring? A traditional symbolic thing which tells the world you are loved. Are there women out there that would rather not wear a wedding ring? Are the old traditions becoming stale? My son told me that wearing a ring would not change the love he felt for his wife and that his love for her is more important than a piece of metal. He makes a good point as children often do and as parents we are quick to dismiss. It is the love and bond between a man and women that is the most important thing, and even the best ring cannot change a true love bonding. Maybe todays world is too focused on the ring and not enough on the actual marriage. Maybe the divorce rate could be lowered if tradition was not the main issue of a marriage proposal, but instead with thoughts of spending a life time together.
“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me… everyday.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook