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Regrets and Redos


Season 1 DVD cover (Region 1)
Season 1 DVD cover (Region 1) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In life comes regret and wishing we could do things over that we feel have caused things to get out of hand in our life. But can we redo our regrets? Can we change the path of our life by fixing a wrong we did in the past? Well according to, Being Erica, we need to be careful what we wish for and that we are the sum of our decisions.

Honestly, until watching the Canadian television series “Being Erica”, I didn’t realize how many people might be paralyzed by their regrets. I thought back about troubled times in my life and realize that some of my decisions or non-decisions have been because of regrets. Of course, there are some regrets we can resolve such as, apologizing for the mistake or if too much time hasn’t passed, to go ahead and right the wrong. Unfortunately, many do not realize their regret until the regret is far into the past. The lingering effect totaling the sum of our person and how we may continue to do things. But do we have to let regrets rule us?

Erica, our protagonist on the show gets a lucky break and meets a therapist, Dr. Tom who helps her travel back in time to change the act, in which Erica feels has  changed the course of her life. What’s the catch? The catch is that although Erica may change what she feels is her regret, the act itself is not always what changes the course of her life. The moral of this story is that many times people need to consider that we are blinded by our own worth. Nothing is as simple as it seems and dwelling on the past prohibits us to move on to the future. I identify with Erica and her obsession with her past regrets and the possibilities, that if we could have made a different decision in the past, our futures would be different. Of course, reality check! Yes, the decisions of our past affect our present but it doesn’t have to rule our future path.

I thought about the past and what if this and what if that, but looking at what I have now and the experiences I have had the chance to have are from some of my regrets. I learned that the next time I had the chance to do something I would; and I have. Sometimes that second chance doesn’t come around, but unlike TV land we can not ( at this time at least ) go back in time. So we do what we must and keep on trucking because life regrets and the world does not slow down for anyone.

 

Often regret is very false and displaced, and imagines the past to be totally other than it was.

JOHN O’DONOHUEAnam Cara