Who knew that this picture would be the picture that would end up defining our family. Mother insisted she take this photo as we wore our Sunday best. Father, never one for photos, only agreed because he hated being late more. Sissy was so proud of having her first big girl purse and I secretly agreed with father. Photos were for sissies and I took my cue from father and put on a stoic look.
Mother didn’t take the picture right away insisting that she wouldn’t unless we smiled. Sissy did her best to please mother, but then she was always trying to be like mother so of course she would. When mother realized that father and I wouldn’t budge she snapped the photo. I don’t know why father was so perturbed that day because when I think of it now it was rare that mother was not in a picture with us.
No matter, father could look as stern as he wanted, but mother would get him chuckling and playing along with any shenanigans she was about. Mother kept life going and always made sure we had fun. So this photo, the one without her, says more about mother to me than all the other photos in our album. Because this was the last picture mother took before she was taken from us in an instant.
In one swift moment she gone in a flash, like the bulb on her camera. Except for mother the flash was the headlights of an on coming car in the night. Mother never knew what hit her, but each time I pick up my camera and click a photo, I think of that day she tried to make us smile and for all the days she did.
Time Magazine’s new cover is causing a stir among mothers everywhere although breastfeeding has been around forever. Noblewomen hired wet-nurses to breast feed their babies and many women in capable of breastfeeding have done the same long before the invention of the baby bottle. Why has breastfeeding become the “ugly” word in child care? What are you’re feelings on this subject? Do you agree with Dr. Bill Sears and his wife’s idea on attachment parenting, which they explain in their book, The Baby Book? As a mother myself, I don’t feel a mother needs to breastfeed into the toddler years to form a strong bond. On the other hand, I did let my children sleep in my bed with me and did not even bother buying a crib. In fact, at 14 and 15 years of age my daughters still like to climb into bed with me and my husband on a Saturday morning.
I posted this article on my Facebook page and a friend of mine put down her own thoughts about the Time Magazine’s breastfeeding cover. Here is what she said.
“The World Health Organization (WHO) reports that the world average for breastfeeding is 4.2 years and they recommend that all children be breastfed for at least two years. Would it be better to give your 3-year-old a cheeseburger and milk shake? The act of breastfeeding can be seen as a type of meditation and relaxation. I wish we could be all more open about it! I support every mother that decides to nurse their children longer than average. Every mother knows what is best for their child. I nursed my 1st son for one year. And my 2nd son for 3 years. Nobody can tell you when it is best to stop. When my son got really sick when he was 2 1/2 years old, he had to be hospitalized. The only thing that stayed in his little body was breast milk. And his recovery was very good. It just proved to me again, that there is nothing better than nursing.” Y. Reyna
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